Monday, September 28, 2009

5 dysfunctions

Hello world- I had a very productive teacher workday today! We got the rock kits out and ready. I feel as our team is working so well together. We are all laughing and having a good time even when were sitting on the floor covered in sand and silt and nasty "liquids" from science kits! We all checked out a book that I have to read before our planning time next Friday. We recieved a grant for subs so that we can work together as a team to plan outside of our regular planning time which is slim with all that comes up during our "planning time." (Parent phone calls, behavior conferences, 1st grade "bugs," accidents, etc.) The book is about how to work together as a team. So far, it is actually pretty good. I got the summary of the book because I dont know that I will be able to finish it by then (my ADHD) and I really am interested in reading it further. So, even if it isnt done by Friday, I will def. be reading it. lol. Yes, I am a nerd. But the book makes a lot of sense and not only about working as a team at work, but life in general. I feel that your family is a team, be that your spouse, or your parents or in laws... The book gives the 5 dysfunctions of a "team." To me, these are important in all "teams."

    My Team Leader, Amy and me

1. Absence of Trust -->To me, these are all so important and have really made me look at things differently. In the book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, it talks about how you must have the trust in eachother to make choices and decisions. You must be vulnerable and open with one another. If you can't trust your spouse or your "team" you really need to rethink things in my opinion. Trust is so major in my life. I trust all of the ladies I work with that I can tell them exactly what is on my mind. Maybe this is just being open, which is something I am good at, but I do not feel "stupid" if I have to ask a question or don't understand something. This too goes for my family and husband. I am known for making "stupid" comments or asking "stupid" questions and I am not scared to do so. LOL

2. Fear of conflict --> This is not a problem that my team has at work or at home! Haha. I love to argue, as does my husband. At work, we argue but always come to an agreement and I think a lot of times this is seen as negative where this book makes it more of a positive thing. Working through issues and productively dealing with the conflicts... Don't you think this is important?! I don't mean "youre stupid, that is dumb, or youre just wrong!" Not those kinds of arguments, but mature adult arguments when everyone is allowed their own opinion and you work through it together are so important.

3. Lack of commitment-->This is important all around. Everyone has to commit. Commitment is big. I think once you begin a job or a relationship there needs to be commitment. The realization that you are a "team" and not an individual anymore. Not only are you effecting yourself, but others as well. At the end of the day you need to be able to look at your teammate or partner and say " I see where you are coming from and agree to disagree." This goes with relationships, religion and LIFE!
4. Avoidance of accountability and 5. Inattention to results are each important as well, but I haven't gotten that far yet! I am done being a "study nerd" tonight. Lol. I have enjoyed relating this to life and people in general and not just to work.

Sooo... Now I am sitting on the couch in the candle light listening to the rain and wind. The power went out and I decided to read my book! It is back on now and I am happy to have iCarly back. LOL. Hubby may or may not be buying the new car he wants. The guy who took out a loan to buy the blue Honda decided today that he wanted a motorcycle instead... SOOOO- Michael and I do not want to take out the money from our savings in fear that the Honda may not sell. So, unless he can sell the Honda soon, the new car may be gone. :( He just got a call on someone very interested in it though, so let's hope and pray that this time it actually goes through. DRAMA! I am so over the Marine Corps and Marines! Speaking of, since they messed up his EAS date we will now still be active at the time of the Marine Corps Ball... to go or not to go? I don't really know anyone there anymore in his unit and he doesn't want to go. I like to get all dressed up and if it is somewhere pretty like the beach it was at last year, it might be a nice trip. I dont know. It was WAY crowded last year and you could barely move, but I did have fun dancing. We'll see I guess. I don't really want to spend the money on a hotel room and I know it will not be close to here. lol.
Ok, time to quit typing to the world. :) Goodnight world. Time to cuddle with my puppies by the candle light and watch suit life on deck. Hubby has 8 days off starting tomorrow and then we only have one more month of this crap! Thank you, God for giving me such strength to make it through these four years. Without my amazing family and friends and my puppy to keep me company, I never could have made it. My husband is amazing and I have been so blessed in life.

Let Go Laughing!

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Hello Fall

Happy Fall!
As much as I love my summers, I do enjoy wearing a pretty light weight scarf in the fall! :) Happy Fall Y'all! Hubby and I have had such a relaxing weekend at home. We got our back yard decorated and love it! We put up some party lights on the fence and moved the picnic table and fire pit to a central location for some evenings in the yard! :) It's perfect! It has been rainy this weekend and cool. We've kept our doors open and listened to the rain. Last night we fell asleep to the sound of the rain on the gutters outside our window.

[Part of our back yard!]

They have messed up Michael's EAS date, so now he will be completely finished with active duty on NOVEMBER 23rd. Oh well- another pay check won't be bad right?! And, he will have thanksgiving off for sure before he starts his new position with Daddy's company. We are so lucky and so happy to have what we do and can't wait to start our new civilian life! It will be very different. Although he will be home each night, he will most likely be off to work already when I get home from work and then when I get up in the mornings, I'm sure he will still be asleep! We also wont have our weekends completely free as we do now, but it will all be worth it in the years to come. In life, you make sacrifices that better your future. For four years we have been mostly apart and it is time to move on to a new chapter in life. =] FINALLY! Dominos Pizza Inc. here we come! I only hope we are as successful in the business as my parents have been. With the guidence we have and them as our mentors, I know we will do well. (Thanks Mom and Dad and Jimmy for showing me how much hard work pays off! Without seeing what you have done and gone through to get where you are now, and the sacrifices you all have made, I would neve know what it takes!)

It has been so nice having Claire and Nick live near by. Finally, I have grown closer to Claire as a friend and a sister. We can talk about life and all it has with it. I always wanted a sister growing up... although, being the only girl was nice in the house! haha. Speaking of, I miss my brother! He never comes home anymore and he is about to leave to the big city to make it big acting. Were going to see his newest show The Notebook, in a couple of weeks. They are turning the movie into a musical and doing a workshop to see if Broadway wants it. How cool will that be on broadway! I hope it makes it and Tyler gets the lead role! I can't wait to be flying to NYC to see my BROTHER on the big stage. I wish I had actually done something with my singing, because I would love to be on stage. At times I do think I could handle the hustle and bustle of that life, but I also like my little house, puppy and husband just the way we are. :)

Work has been busy. VERY busy. Hadley told me yesterday that she heard on NPR that teaching a class of over 20 is the same as teaching a class of 40. YES IT IS! When only 2 or 3 are absent, be the good or talkative ones, it makes the biggest difference. Were doing the best we can through this economy and I just pray that these kids get the best education possible. I am doing everything I can to be sure of that in my classroom.

Time to spend the rest of the day relaxing on this rainy day with my husband. The roast is in the crock pot and it smells so yummy! I have really been cooking a lot more lately. I have always loved to be in the kitchen. Nanny and I used to spend all day on Saturday's making cakes or some kind of sweets. Yesterday, I made her a pumpkin shaped birthday cake and it was so yummy! :) Off to relax now! Were gonna play some Wii and hang out like best friends do! I love my life and everything about it.
The pumpkin cake I made Nanny for her birthday!

Let Go Laughing!

Thursday, September 3, 2009

it's been a while-

Yes, I planted flowers! :)

Well blogger world- I'm back! =] Boy have I been busy. My topsail summer ended quickly and I am back to the real world. It is nice to be home. Hubby and i got our new tv that we have been waiting for. It looks so awesome and takes up so much less room than the huuuuge tv we had before!

I cant believe michael's EAS is NEXT MONTH! This has been a long four years. He has enjoyed his time serving the country and it has definitaly been an adventure for the two of us. Without the Marine Corps, we never would have been able to travel to such amazing places, meet such wonderful people and be able to have the home we have today. It has been a blessing for us, but we are SO ready for it to be in the past.

Work is going well. Busy busy and boy do i have some first grade stories to tell! let's see. The first three weeks of school have gone by now and tomorrow is only wednesday. I promise, i do NOT get paid enough for what I do. lol. I have seen private parts, cleaned up pee as well as poop and had children crying all day. They are cute and funny, but I do have a lot of them! 24 1st graders is a lot of children. I have a fabulous TA this year who has been a life saver. She is so nice to sit and just talk to. She even took the class for me to have a break after an emotional break down and sending two kids home after some major "accidents." It's great having a full time TA.

Last weekend Michael and I stayed home in Durham. We walked 4.5 miles to the coffee shop on Saturday morning. Mom and Dad, Claire and Nick met us there. We also went to the flea market and farmers market. We got a lot of fresh veggies. I cooked alllll weekend long. Turning into a pretty good cook, if I say so myself. This weekend I get to see Sara and Micah! I am so excited! Off to cirque dreams at the DPAC with mom! =] Then home for the big brother finale!!!! GO JORDO! or Kevin... lol. but i REALLY want Jordan to win!